Unappreciation | Reflection


It’s a hot-weathered Monday and I was already bored. I needed to speak to someone so I walked up to the table, picked up my smart phone and dialed Esther’s number.“hello Essy, good morning. How are you doing now?”“Am fine oo. This one you chose to call me this morning, ‘hope say ground level for your side oo’, are you there?”“Yes, Essy. Am just bored….as in, I


can already smell the boredom that’ll clothe me throughout today. What’s up with you”“hmmmmm……Shuga, am just there oo. You know am tired of this country now. Things are so hard and my boss keeps annoying me in that office. I’m quitting, I need to get me a more befitting job with less wahala abeg. Did I tell you that Andrew……”


The Esther that I know would keep counting those evils until my network provider ends the call on my behalf (why did I even call her in the first place? Sigh).


There are so many people like her. Always complaining about what is wrong or not working. Never appreciating the other good things.



Ingratitude is the state of forgetfulness. It is the poor return received; not appreciating or valuing what you have, or have been given.

Just like Esther, so many of us live our lives daily lamenting on this, that or the other thing. We are always engrossed in this bitterness that we soon overlook the little goodness around us that actually enriched our lives and that of others around us. It has become a paradigm of life.

Most times, the solution to all those bitterness lie in being grateful. A simple “thank you”, going out of your way to do something extra just to show that person that you truly appreciate them and the things they’ve done for you.

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Few days ago, I had gone on a road walk in the evening. I was too exhausted to jog back so I just walked slowly back home. Then I saw something that looked like a heap, close to the gutter and being curious as I usually am, I went close to see what it was. I was already cursing whoever would dump their refuse there (probably waiting for rain to come wash it away) when I noticed it was actually a young man who was laying all muddled up and sleeping. My God, I couldn’t believe my eyes. I got so teary seeing that after the day’s hustle, he had no decent place to lay his head and he was going to be there till sunrise.

By now, I was cursing myself for having been so ungrateful to God & complaining about not having enough food to eat or money to buy expensive clothes. I had to ask God for forgiveness that instant.

Another scenario is of a man who had garri and a little soup to eat on new year day but was bitter because there was little or no meat in the soup. While he went into his room, his bowl of garri was stolen and you can imagine how mad he was, and would have been ready to hurt whoever was responsible. He tried tracing the thief, only to discover that a widow and he 4 children were using water to eat the bowl of garri.

Yes. That 30, 000naira that you’re earning and grumbling about is what someone is praying for to save their lives from ill health.

You don’t like wearing shoes that cost just 3k but someone who sees you everyday is praying and fasting to be half as lucky as you are.

The other day, you asked for 3 biscuits and he had just one to give you. You frowned at it and at him, cursed in your mind and concluded that he was stingy and unkind. Saying thank you was a nightmare. He doesn’t deserve it.

Have you stopped to take a look at your life and thank God that you have eyes to see, legs to walk, water to drink – wash your clothes-take your bath, food to eat (even if it’s one meal in a day), that your family/friends/loved ones are all alive, that you can afford to buy data to use in surfing the internet……..

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They’re people who don’t know what the world looks like because they are blind or have their legs amputated, cloth/drink/bath from dirty springs or once in every 3 days when they can afford to, have lost all their loved ones, don’t even know what’s happening in the world because they don’t own even the cheapest phone in the market.

Am talking to myself to as much as I am talking to you.

Let’s learn to breathe gratitude just like the air we breathe. Ingratitude disheartens and hurts the person who should have been appreciated and the person who was shown favor. It makes us lose the opportunity to delight in the blessings of our lives.

We’re given this beautiful life, this beautiful world, but we destroy it with ingratitude and hate.

Count your blessings and be grateful not a great fool.

Have you ever experienced ingratitude or It’s cost? Have you ever being ungrateful? Are there people in your life whom you need to thank, for their sake, your sake and the sake of your relationship? Share with this beloved family in the comment section below:



You don’t like wearing shoes that cost just 3k but someone who sees you everyday is praying and fasting to be half as lucky as you are.

The other day, you asked for 3 biscuits and he had just one to give you. You frowned at it and at him, cursed in your mind and concluded that he was stingy and unkind. Saying thank you was a nightmare. He doesn’t deserve it.


Have you stopped to take a look at your life and thank God that you have eyes to see, legs to walk, water to drink – wash your clothes-take your bath, food to eat (even if it’s one meal in a day), that your family/friends/loved ones are all alive, that you can afford to buy data to use in surfing the internet……..

They’re people who don’t know what the world looks like because they are blind or have their legs amputated, cloth/drink/bath from dirty springs or once in every 3 days when they can afford to, have lost all their loved ones, don’t even know what’s happening in the world because they don’t own even the cheapest phone in the market.

Am talking to myself to as much as I am talking to you.

Let’s learn to breathe gratitude just like the air we breathe. Ingratitude disheartens and hurts the person who should have been appreciated and the person who was shown favor. It makes us lose the opportunity to delight in the blessings of our lives.

We’re given this beautiful life, this beautiful world, but we destroy it with ingratitude and hate.

Count your blessings and be grateful not a great fool.


Have you ever experienced ingratitude or It’s cost? Have you ever being ungrateful? Are there people in your life whom you need to thank, for their sake, your sake and the sake of your relationship? Share with this beloved family in the comment section below:

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