Every young lady always has fantasies about being in a relationship with some amazing guy from wherever. She’s always filled with fantasies about who this guy should be, his looks, what he does, how romantic he should be and so on.
When an average Nigerian lady is asked who her ideal man should be, the first things that comes to mind are; He has to be tall, handsome, responsible, very rich, God-Fearing, must be a helpless romantic, must be physically built (6 packs), fair as the moon……..”Way to go girl…..i think he died two thousand years ago….”. Even though some have come out to say that they’d rather date older men…especially the married ones.
“Really? I mean, why should i even be….
attracted or attached to a married man?….Oko oloko (Yoruba). I don’t care what their reasons are but …Hell no! I ain’t dating no married man, girl”
At other times, they’ll claim they had no idea he was a married man all through the “forever years” they had been dating…..“wow”. I wouldn’t say am in this category but I’ve had experiences of dating married men even though these relationships never lasted beyond 2-3 months.
“Ok….Hold on. Before you start getting ideas into your head; am that kinda girl that would never peck or kiss a man even after the fourth date…..you got that right. It’s not about playing hard to get really, but I like to be conventional about such matters, but…..(Off the records….’i no be jew girl or JJC oo….hehehe’)”
Before i share my own experiences, I’ll quickly let you in on how to know if he’s married, no matter how young he looks and without giving away your detective cover…*winks*
How to know if he’s married:
- Subconsciously check his left finger, there’s a possibility that he forgot to take off his wedding ring. If it’s not there, the mark which shows that something has been occupying that space will be there.
2.Check his phone….this doesn’t sound odd, trust me. Just playfully ask to go through his music player or video gallery. Look out for his lock screen or screen saver, and of course, his pictures. There has to be a picture of wifey and his adorable kid(s).
3. He doesn’t answer his phone after 10pm. Even when he picks up the phone, check for urgency and tightness in his voice; He’d want to get off the phone and is worried about getting caught.
4. He never wants to take you to his house. When he finally does, you’ll notice his kitchen is very tidy; bedroom, well attended to and nails on the wall without pictures hanging on them (He probably took them down because you were coming).
5. He moves away from you whenever he wants to answer certain calls. When he returns, he’ll claim it was an urgent business call. “Shouldn’t he be free to answer business calls in your presence? Well…..yes, except he’s into some kind shady deals”
“Did i miss anything? let me know if i did…..*smiles*, thanks”
Now to my story on how I dated 3 married men and how it turned out. Just because I want to feel more connection between you and I as i share my experience, so you can listen below: